Sunday, August 24, 2008

My Mother – A Tribute

All of us love our mothers. They are special in many ways. At times we may realize this rather late, may be long after when their ashes have returned to ashes.

I loved my mother. She passed away on 15th June 1996. I never knew that she was going to leave us so suddenly. She was taken to a hospital for getting a gall bladder stone dislodged by endoscopy that had remained in the bile duct after her previous operation. The doctor had said that it is a safe procedure. She was in good health & had no problem besides hypertension for which she was under treatment. She died of cardiac- arrest immediately after the procedure. I have never been able to forget that day.

We were a large family of 5 children, my grand mother & my father. My father was the only earning member & it was very difficult to bring up 5 college\ school growing children. The times were hard. My father’s pay, whatever he was earning at that time, hardly lasted till the 20th of every month but she never complained. I never saw her cribbing despite the fact that our house was rather heavily frequented by relatives & visitors. To top it all, my grand mother’s religious functions & consequent fasts required special cooking of one or the other thing. How did she manage it? Did she know some magic? No. She was ingenious. She never wasted anything. She used to turn peals of boiled banana, peals of raw gourd, pumpkin & bitter gourd into delicious vegetarian delights. Even the stems of cauliflower & cabbage & the leaves of turnips, radish etc. turned into highly edible vegetables in her hands. When there was no money to buy potatoes she would use dried potato chips as a substitute. She could virtually turn anything into food.

Besides all this she took keen interest in our studies. She was a graduate herself & knew well the importance of education. My father was busy mostly with his work & his sole contribution to our welfare was restricted to giving money to my mother for the household expenses. She was interested in her husband’s career too. Without her coaxing & show of annoyance my father could never have finished his PhD thesis. All of us are well settled because of her. All of us have done well in our lives because of her. All of us have knowingly\ unknowingly hurt her many a times. All of us miss her. I am her eldest son. She was closest to me in many respects. I miss her the most. She was a Great Home Maker. She was my MOTHER.





Friday, August 1, 2008

Beware If you can

Have you noticed or known any person who uses you as a dumping ground for all his\her emotional or any other need?I pray that you have never met & will never find any such person in your life. If you have met any one of this kind then you deserve all the blessings & sympathies because I know that you must have been victimized.Oh, you wish to know as to how do I know about it, don't you? Well, I will tell you. You have not been & will never be able to give them a no as an answer because you love them & they know about it. Just because you love these people, they will turn to you for any support in times of need. Forget about a letter, they may not have bothered to drop in a line at your email address or said hello in the past.They would not care less if you were dead for they may have other dumping grounds. But rest assured that they will find all about you as & when you are needed. They will again sneak into your life with all the love & affection they may or may not have had for you. You will embrace them. Yes you will. This is where you are finished\killed once again. You are obliged to offer all the emotional, moral, physical or may be economic support since they need it & you love them or may have loved them at some time in your life or may have been a friend once upon a time. The end will always be tragic for they will disappear after you have done your bit without even bothering to thank you for the trouble you have taken. I assure you that they will reappear as & when they need you again. Please do not ask me what to do in such cases.My only word of caution is,' beware if you can'. But despite my caution I know that you are bound to fail. They have a magical aura & they are very charming people. Honestly,I have failed time & again in avoiding them. Good luck to all of you any way.